THOUGHTS WORTH CONSIDERING HAJR JAMEEL

negatively. The psychology of complaint destroys the spirit of gratitude. Therefore, a believer actively eliminates feelings of complaint to protect the spirit of gratitude within. Similarly, the psychology of hatred destroys the spirit of love. That is why a believer prevents feelings of hatred from growing so that the love of God remains fully intact. Sometimes, this must be done firmly, and other times with wise planning. Hajr jameel (graceful avoidance) might appear to be aimed at others, but actually, it relates to the self. A believer works hard to keep the higher Islamic values alive within. Under no circumstances should there be any internal weakening. According to the Quran, God has not placed two hearts within any human being (Quran, 33:4). That is, two opposing emotions cannot develop in the heart at the same time. A heart that harbours hatred for people cannot, at the same time, be filled with love for God. A heart filled with complaints against others can never be overwhelmed with gratitude toward God. A chest that has become a jungle of revengeful feelings cannot experience the sweetness of seeking forgiveness from God. A person who lives in memories of oppression cannot experience the remembrance of the Merciful and Compassionate God. The truth is that patience and gracious avoidance serve as a form of self-protection for the believer. It’s a way to prevent non-believing tendencies from developing in one’s heart. Therefore, whenever such a situation occurs,