Successful Marital Life

SUCCESSFUL MARITAL LIFE According to the laws of nature, in the present world, no one can find anything on an ideal yardstick. For a successful life, we need to be realistic. Success does not come to one with an unrealistic mindset. Providing guidance for good relations between spouses, the Quran says: Live with them in accordance with what is fair and kind; if you dislike them, it may be that you dislike something which God might make a source of abundant good. (4:19) This teaching applies to both husbands and wives. From it, one learns that good marital relations do not depend on whether the husband gets a wife who is totally to his liking or that the wife gets a husband who is what she would like ideally. The fact of the matter is that, in accordance with Nature’s laws, for this to happen is just not possible. The secret of a successful marital life lies in adjusting to a spouse who in some respects may not be in accordance with one’s liking. One must search for likable aspects in them amidst aspects that one may not like.