Lesson from Flowing Water

Time to time, I continue to feel the emotional pain of losing my kids at an early age. How should I manage it? T he Quran tells a formula for this: if children die at an early age, they will attain Paradise. Thus you must known that they are very fortunate – their place in Paradise has already been determined and now you have to make yourself paradisiacal so that you can meet your children after death. How can a person maintain positivity always? M y simply formula is: when I get a negative thought, feel offended or angry, I begin to think who will suffer out of the manifestation of my negative thinking? Every time, I realize that I will be the sufferer and not the other person. So, if I will be the sufferer then why should I harm myself? All negative thoughts only make us suffer – so why should we indulge in it. This idea keeps my positive thinking alive. Should we not accuse those who do wrong to us? T hese days, Muslims are engaged in bad-mouthing. Muslims have to decide whether or not they will follow divine commandments. When the Prophet Muhammad was in Makkah, severe atrocities were inflicted on him, but when he reached Madinah he never spoke ill of his Makkan opponents. The first sermon of the Prophet upon his migration to Madinah does not carry a word of how people from Makkah cast him away or of any atrocity he faced at their hands. The Prophet’s first sermon in Madinah was only about the message he had received from God about the reality of life and death. Muslims have to realize that God will not be pleased by their negative thinking for others. He will be pleased only if they follow the Sunnah of the Prophet, that is, forgetting complaints and grievances. Is there any possibility to get a ‘perfect’ partner in this world? A perfect partner is a thing to groom, not to find or receive. Study tells that every man and every woman has been created according to a different mould. When no two have been created alike according to the creation plan of God, how will you exactly find the person whom you desire? You can only make your marriage favourable by training the person whom you get