12. Speech management

12. Speech management “A kind word and forgiveness is better than a charitable deed followed by hurtful words: God is self-sufficient and forbearing.” Al-Baqarah 2:263 S ome soil (earth) may collect on the surface of a boulder. Outwardly, it appears as though this is good, fertile soil, but when a gust of wind brings a rain-shower down upon it, then the earth is washed away, leaving the rock exposed to the elements. The same is true of one who has donned a superficial robe of piety, without that piety having permeated his entire being. Should he be addressed rudely by someone asking for financial help, or should his ego receive wounding blow, he becomes so irritated that he exceeds all bounds of decency in his response. An important teaching of the Quran is to use words with an extreme sense of responsibility and not let one’s tongue get out of control. This teaching is stressed in the chapter Al Nisa (Women) of the Quran: There is no good in most of their secret talk, except in the case of those who enjoin charity and kindness or reconciliation between people. If anyone does that, seeking the pleasure of God, We will give him an immense reward. (4:114) This Quranic verse includes talks and conversations. The power of speech given to man is a rare quality, an