The Problem Of Sectarianism

The Problem of Sectarianism peacefully and practicing humanity. He said nothing to his own son, placed all the blame on Mr. B’s son, and kept giving one-sided advice on morality and good conduct. On the surface, Mr. A’s advice may seem right. But in context, it was unjust. By saying nothing to his own son, he encouraged misbehaviour. His message to the other boy became a message of mischief to his own son. This example highlights how most people view issues through the lens of “ours” and “theirs.” When someone from their own group errs, they downplay it. When someone from another group does the same, they magnify it. This double standard is the root of all conflict. If people adopt a fair-minded approach, and treat outsiders with the same compassion they show their own, conflict will disappear. Violence and bitterness will naturally fade away. Recently, I met a businessman in Jeddah who has worked in many countries and is very successful. I asked him, “What is the secret to living peacefully with others?” He replied, “The same principle that the Quran calls i‘raaz —to overlook unpleasant things instead of confronting them. Whenever conflict arises, I am ready to step back. That’s why I never face obstacles.” He shared an experience: once a man got angry with him and came the next day, shouting and threatening him. “I remained silent,” he said. “When he finished, I told him, ‘Do whatever you like. But I too have a weapon.’ He