No Complaints

It’s like someone trying to light a cigarette with sunlight. When it doesn’t work, he starts blaming the sun. In reality, he should blame his own foolishness—not the sun in the sky. Someone rightly said: “The higher the expectation, the greater the disappointment.” Whenever you feel hurt by someone, reflect for a moment. You likely expected more from that person than was realistic. If you expect a wooden stick to behave like iron, what will you get except disappointment? A person who only spoke kindly to you—you expected deep emotional support. Someone whose only link with you was offering tea during visits—you expected them to spend money on you or fight your battles. A casual acquaintance—you believed they would become your lifelong friend. Someone who could be present in good times—you expected them to stand by you in your worst times. A person who acted nobly when things were smooth—you expected them to remain noble during crises as well. All of these expectations go against reality. And in this world, anything that goes against reality simply cannot exist. So it’s no surprise that such expectations were not fulfilled—and never will be. The secret to living well is