Breaking the Conditioning Mould

he starts to consider his way of thinking to be correct. When one begins to think in this manner, it is the result of conditioning. This happens to almost everyone. And so, when a man and a woman come together in marriage, this type of conditioning becomes a problem. The woman looks at things from a different angle from the man. This can result in disagreements, which can blow up to great proportions. The only solution to this problem is to de-condition one another. This can happen only when one opens up and engages in intellectual discussion with the other. A prerequisite for deconditioning is that one must be willing to admit one’s mistakes. Admitting one’s mistakes and trying to change oneself is the only successful way to decondition oneself. One way to decondition is given here. Before marriage, a boy and a girl live with their respective blood relations. These gradually become comfort zones for them. But, after marriage, they have to live in a non-blood relationship. This becomes, unconsciously, if not consciously, a noncomfort zone for both of them. They must understand that living in one’s comfort zone is not based on reality. It is only a psychological state which may be interpreted as a comfort zone. When they understand this fact, they will regard their situation as an issue of management and not a reaction.