Pouring Oil on Troubled Waters

Pouring Oil on Troubled Waters

1986 5 May 26 Pouring Oil on Troubled Waters (283) Bertrand Russell was a liberal in the fullest sense of the word. He often expressed thoughts which were so unconventional as to be profoundly disturbing to the more conservative members of his audiences. In his autobiography he writes of an incident which took place in the course of one of his lectures:

“A man rose in fury, remarking that I looked like a monkey; to which I replied, “Then you will have the pleasure of hearing the voice of your ancestor” (p. 565).

We do not have to deal here with the truth or falsehood of the theory of evolution. We have simply quoted Russell’s words as a good example of how to deal with provocation. When someone is critical of what you say and lashes out at you, you may retort in the same harsh manner, or on the other hand, you may make some quip which will happily divert attention from the matter under dispute. Another way is simply to remain unprovoked. No matter how strongly you are tempted to indulge in counter-criticism, you should keep your temper, for the best response can never be one of sharp reaction; if you make a response at all, it should be well thought-out and positive.

Stinging retorts only stir up further controversy, whereas lighthearted banter, or the humble submission of alternative ideas can have a tranquillizing effect – like throwing water on a blazing fire. It is also effective in silencing an audience, as in the above-mentioned anecdote where it was Bertrand Russell’s humour which made his riposte so effective. Had he reacted adversely, he could never have retained the interest or attention of his audience. His lecture could easily have ended in chaos.