Stability in Marriage

had unstinted affection. This relationship and the place in the family are usually taken for granted. She is unaware that these valuable elements in family living are not hers for the taking when she enters her new home as a married woman. They have to be earned. She has to show that she deserves the kind of love and regard she has as a matter of right in her parents’ home. This lack of awareness is often the cause of major rifts in her married life. There is unconditional love in the case of blood relationships. Her parents love her, whether she is good or bad, active or idle, or helpful, regardless of the circumstances of her life and her character. With no such blood relationship with her in-laws, love from them will never be unconditional. It will be directly related to the impression her character and abilities make upon them in daily living. For the bride, entering the marriage bond is like undergoing a series of tests, the outcome of which will determine whether her married life will be stable and happy. Wise parents will warn their daughters to mould themselves to new sets of circumstances. A woman who enters marriage with a correct appreciation of what is required of her will make the transition with ease. Through her character and accomplishments, she will earn the same honourable position in her in-laws’ home as she had in her parents’ home. Daughter-in-Law does not consider her in-laws’ house as her own home, which results in the in-laws’ family members also failing to accept her as part of their family. The girl ends up paying the price