DOWRY AND DOWER

A woman, who enters marriage with a correct appreciation of what is required of her, will make the transition with ease. By virtue of her character and accomplishments, she will earn the same honourable position in her in-law’s home as she had in her parents’ home. For a woman who enters marriage, uninstructed as to the realities of life in her parents-in-law’s home, friction is likely to arise because she does not consider it her own home. As a result her parents-in-law will not think of her as their own. Her life will have little sense of fulfillment. She will be fortunate indeed if her afflictions are only psychological. It is regrettable that women in this position seldom realise that their woes stem largely from their unpreparedness for the married state. Such a situation is invariably aggravated when her parents attempt to intervene. In a clash between the weak and the strong, it is always the former who suffer and of course, within the bonds of marriage, it is always the woman, who is in the weaker position. Parents do not realise the damage they do to their own daughter’s life in waging an unending war against her in-laws. But, as the old saying goes, “Every father is a fool where his children are concerned”. The parents-in-law’s home is a kind of training and testing ground in which she must be willing to learn, to adapt and to prove her mettle. She must leave behind her the fairy tale existence of her parent’s home. It is the girl who is prepared to look at the hard facts of life in the face, who will make her marriage a resounding success. o Contented Life Contentment in this world is only for those who willingly accept the Creation Plan of God. It is the one who is prepared to look at the hard facts of life in the face, who will make their marriage a resounding success.