SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE

SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE Conscious Efforts Necessary T HE coming together of a man and a woman in marriage is the most unique event in the universe. All the things created in the universe are in pairs. But the compatibility that exists between a man and a woman cannot be found in any other creation. When a man and a woman come together as life partners, it is evident that they have been made for one another through a conscious plan. The relationship between a husband and wife, while unique, is also a delicate matter due to the fact that they are not related by blood. In a blood relationship, there is an emotional bonding and establishes relationship by force of nature. On the other hand, a relationship in marriage has to be developed through conscious effort and rational management. In this journey the first important step is to realise that the partnership of man and woman in marriage is unique and part of a conscious plan. This realisation will instill a sense of gratitude at having found each other. They will consider marriage as a blessing. A heart full of gratitude will have no negative feelings for one’s partner. From birth, we go through a continuous process of development. In this process, intellectual development is of utmost importance. Two people who are married to each other are immediate intellectual partners to each other. Marriage offers an ideal opportunity to commune, ensuring continuity in their learning. However, there is a pre-condition to be fulfilled for learning. It is to have the readiness and courage to break away from any wrong conditioning which has become a part of one’s personality due to upbringing and lifestyle. We are conditioned by the environment we grow up in. The environment both within the home and outside moulds us into what we eventually grow up to be. This gives us the idea that our way of thinking is right, the result of our conditioning. Everyone goes through this. In marriage this becomes a problem. The woman looks at things from a different angle than that of the man, leading to disagreements which can blow out of proportion. The solution is to de-condition by engaging The three important aspects of gratitude, importance of considering marriage as intellectual partnership and deconditioning form the foundation of a good home.