SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE

in discussion with an open mind. Both partners in this process should be ready to admit their mistakes and change their attitude. The above three aspects of gratitude, considering marriage as intellectual partnership and de-conditioning, form the foundation of a good home. The art of life management requires understanding of oneself (knowing one’s own capabilities and nature), and becoming aware of others’ nature and the world one lives in. This will help one to plan life in a realistic manner and make improvements as and when required. Policy of Wait and Watch: In a marriage, a couple often makes the mistake of expecting the other to come up to their expectations from day one. They ignore the need to give time to each other to adjust, knowing well that nothing happens before its stipulated time. It is not possible to find today what you are not destined to find until tomorrow. Mutual Trust: Mutual trust between a couple is essential to successfully build a home. The reason for lack of trust is a lack of total commitment to each other in the relationship despite being married. Lack of commitment becomes a psychological barrier. Mutual trust develops when both undertake introspection to diagnose their weaknesses and correct them. Treating trivial matters as trivial: Sometimes trivial matters escalate into serious discord. This happens due to lack of maturity and a poor sense of proportion to evaluate and understand the seriousness of an issue. Oversensitivity and over-reacting to even petty matters causes friction. Looking at an issue calmly and evaluating it in the backdrop of the big picture of life will make good sense prevail. The formula of 30 seconds: Men are egoistic by nature and women emotional. This can make them come to loggerheads with each other due to their differences. This difference cannot be obliterated. It makes sense for the woman to keep her calm when a man’s ego flares up, and likewise when the woman gets emotional and loses her cool the man must stay calm. The law of nature on negative feelings is that it gets activated for only about 30 seconds, and if left unchecked, it gets defused. If a person controls his anger and does not allow it to flare, negative feelings will ebb away leaving no negative outcomes. Mutual trust develops when both partners undertake introspection to diagnose their weaknesses and correct them.