BEYOND EXCUSES

For example, people often develop complaints about others and go on living in the complaint culture. The habit of complaining is an issue of reason and not of emotion. That is, if a person just thinks about it, he will realize that to go on complaining means being a bad member of society. A good member is one who wishes others well. This kind of thinking is possible through rational analysis. If a person thinks in this manner, he will surely develop strong will power and instantly abandon the complaint culture. A person said that he used to constantly feel angry with others. One day he thought that although he was the one who was angry with others, but it was actually he alone who paid the price for this because he constantly lived in a state of tension and stress. When he realized this, he instantly took the decision to change his attitude and stop being angry. It is commonly seen that people easily develop strong will power for their own personal interests, but where it concerns another’s interests, they do not do so. Such a person lives by double standards. If he uses his reason and recognizes this as a weakness, then surely he will develop strong will power and will abandon his wrong habit. Often, after marriage, rifts arise between husband and wife, and their married life becomes filled with bitterness. If both were to reflect, they would realize that before marriage, they lived happily because they were surrounded by their own family members, with whom they shared natural blood ties. After marriage, however, such ties do not exist with one another. Once they acknowledge this reality, they can consciously summon the willpower to correct their behaviour, nurture mutual understanding, and thereby create a harmonious and happy married life. Develop strong will power and you will certainly be able to move mountains. 